Blogging: How to Increase Comments

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I struggled with the title of this post because getting comments isn’t about stats; it’s about building relationships.

Some visitors to this blog might have noticed the number of comments here. It wasn’t and isn’t a goal, honestly. And there really isn’t any magic to it either. Comments grow out of a desire to genuinely connect with other bloggers, and a commitment to put in the time to do so.

Here’s how it happens:

I leave lots of comments on other blogs. These are my invitations to engage, my knock on a blogger’s door. They say, “Want to come out and play?”

Because blogging-time is precious, if a blogger doesn’t bother to reply to my knock, even with a simple “thank you,” I’m less inclined to knock again. On some level, they’ve declined my offer to engage.

At the very least, say “thank you” to someone who took the time to read and leave a comment.

What’s better than a simple “thank you?” A comment on the visitor’s comment! Even a kind thought, or sharing something more about the post conveys that you are delighted with their visit and the time they dedicated to your blog.

Then reciprocate! Comments are a two-way streets.

I reciprocate 99.9% of the comments I receive. I head over to the blogger’s site, read and share my thoughts.

This is the relationship-building part of blogging. It says, “I valued your visit and wanted to see what’s up at your house.” If I can, I learn the blogger’s name and reflect on something specific from the content. “Great post,” is fine, but it doesn’t invite conversation the same way as mentioning what was great.

Are there comments that will sabotage your efforts? Yes! Please don’t leave comments on anyone’s blog that say, “Follow me” or “Check out my blog” (or something similar). They come across as pushy, and I, for one, am likely to delete them. 

Some of the genuinely promising starts will fizzle, some will mosey along, and others will blast off with an instant connection. That’s okay; it how life works. Remember, the goal isn’t to amass tons of comments; it’s to end up with a collection of blogging friends that make this journey enjoyable.

And we all know that sometimes life gets in way, or our comments end up in spam. Or we get busy and need a break or for some personal reason just can’t respond or reciprocate. And that’s fine too. We’re not super-human beings. The great thing about building blogging relationships is that once in place, our online friends understand.

Keep in mind that there is tons of good content in blogland, and though quality is important, YOU are a huge part of what makes your blog stand out. Share yourself and invite others to come out and play.

That’s all there is to it.

Happy Blogging!

 

 

395 thoughts on “Blogging: How to Increase Comments

  1. I am fairly new to blogging and I have read a few posts like this, with the tips, and this one is one of my favorites because it describes what I do. I spend plenty of time reading, commiting and trying to connect with others. So… 🤔🤞… this will work! 🙋‍♀️🤗 Hope you have a great rest of your night.

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  2. Mici says:

    I agree with you but here is the problem. What should we do when we get lot’s of spam comments. They’re not just comments I had entire blog posts in comment pending for approval.

    We people also misuse this engaging methodology too.

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    • I tend to get lots of spam too, Mici, and it is terribly annoying. There was a period of time when I was getting 900 spam comments a day! They were mostly targeting one post, and I ended up having to close comments on that one to stop it. But I’ve NEVER been spammed by someone where I’ve liked their post and commented. It’s always been a good experience. I do check and clear my spam folder every few days in case a real blogger gets stuck there. 🙂 So happy blogging!

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  3. Thank you. This is so true. I read a lot of blogs but rarely comment so- this made me think. Thank you.

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  4. Well I am in the beginning phase of blogging. I have been trying really hard to take some time out from my busy schedule and visit other blogs and learn from thems. Posts like this will really help me grow my blog. Thank you!!

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    • Blogging can take a lot of time so you’ll always be making adjustments as your blog grows. But the fun and friendships will make it worth it. I’m glad this was a helpful article! Happy Blogging!

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    • Just a note… your link sent me to a site that doesn’t exist. It looks like you have a hyphen in the URL that shouldn’t be there. I took the hyphen out and found you. Fix that so when people try to reciprocate a visit, they can get to your site. Let me know if you need help finding where to make the fix. 🙂

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  5. Awesome and valuable advice. This advice is helpful. Thanks man.

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  6. Elize Rr says:

    Wow! What a cool attitude towards blogging! Pleasure to read this!

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  7. Rêveuse says:

    Nice post … great advice thanks for sharing

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  8. Hi Diana, thanks for this article, it really helped me. I’m just getting started at blogging and do it almost everyday but I do not get any comments at all.

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  9. Nice informative post.

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  10. Thank you for the post. I believe most things are about building relationships. So, communication is key! I think I’ll mosey along to your site and see what’s there!

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  11. makes a lot of sense! thanks for sharing! 🙂

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  13. Very good thoughts on being a blogger in the blogging community in general, not just about comments and reciprocating comments. Thanks for posting this.

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    • Thanks, Rochelle. It really is a community. It’s “social” media, and it makes sense to be a good community member. But everyone has to figure out what works for them and their lives. Thanks for the visit and Happy Blogging!

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  14. I have been blogging for roughly two years now. I am only just starting to try and really reach out to other bloggers.
    Tips like these are really helping me along.
    Thanks buddy

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  15. I’m new to blogging and just saw this when i put blogging into the reader. I’d love to reach out to people but my blog is only a small account of my toddler and I taking on the 30 days wild challenge!

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    • Blogging with a toddler? You are brave! Honestly, each of us has to find what works with our lives and that will be different for everyone. And it will change over time, too. The main thing is to have fun because that will show in your words. Good luck with the challenge and have fun making friends. Happy Blogging.

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  16. Thanks for this wonderful post. I just started blogging a week ago and i love reading articles like yours so I can grow as a blogger.

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    • Welcome to blogging! I’m glad this post was helpful. It’s time-consuming, but really the best way to make blogging buddies. I would have stopped years ago if not for the lovely friendships. Above all, have fun. 🙂

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  17. MG WELLS says:

    Thanks for sharing and wishing you many blessings!

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  18. Thanks for sharing! I’ve just started this blogging journey and had no idea so many great writers are out here on WP. I find in reading when I should be writing, but I’ll catch up tomorrow. Glad to see that comments are building relationships, I like that idea. 😊

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  19. cath says:

    Nice post. If only I’d had advice like this when I started blogging.

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  20. D.S. Black says:

    Great advice. Its one of those things most of us need pointed out. You have to make real connections, not just try and push your way into another bloggers world.

    Thanks for the post!

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    • It took me a couple years to figure out that “social” media is supposed to be social (duh), and I would have quit blogging years ago if I hadn’t made all these friends across the world. But each blogger’s approach is up to them and what they want to get from the experience. No right or wrong. Thanks for the visit and Happy Blogging!

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  21. jomz says:

    I agree that leaving a comment in posts is valuable, specially when a lot of readers would just leave a “like” and leave it at that.

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    • Thanks for stopping by, Jomz. There’s nothing wrong with likes, but they don’t start a conversation or share anything about a person’s personality. For me, getting to know people is the best part of blogging. Have a great day and Happy Blogging!

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  22. Everything you said on here I agree with and these are tactics that I use
    Helpful post ☺

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  23. This was awesome…it irrigates a new energy in the readers😇

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    • Thanks so stopping by, Jyoti. There are lots of ways to blog, but this has worked for me, and if it weren’t for the wonderful relationships I’ve built on WP, I would have stopped blogging years ago. Above all, enjoy whatever road you take. Have a great weekend!

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  24. Reblogged this on Julia's Journal and commented:
    Thank you for your insightful article. I agree that blogging is about building online relationships, which I’m beginning to find out as I’m new! Your comments are invaluable as blogging is a giant maze! x

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    • Thanks so much for the comment and the reblog, Julia, and welcome to blogging! It’s really pretty basic when you think about it – be kind and reach out to the bloggers you enjoy and most will do the same. For me, the friendships are wonderful and as real as any “in person.” Above all, enjoy yourself. Happy Blogging!

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  25. You nailed it, Diana! When I first entered the world of blogging, I would read and like posts, but rarely commented. I don’t know why exactly, perhaps that’s the learning curve we all experience. When I started commenting, I recognized the community that I’m so delighted to be a member of. Engagement is key. Cheers to that! 🙂

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  26. I’ve never thought about it this way and I like that you have so much interaction. I am aiming to receive more interaction and probably commenting on other blogs more is agood way to do so!

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    • Thanks for the visit, Flo. It is the best way to make friends in blogland, but it does take time, so finding a good balance is key. Comment on those blogs that you really enjoy and the rest will happen naturally. 🙂 Happy Blogging!

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  27. Cloud Walker says:

    Good post! I really liked that interaction is more important than likes! 🇺🇸

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  28. Rageshree says:

    Very true!! Blogging is about building relationships with fellow bloggers and grow together❤️

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    • I think so, too, though everyone has to find what works for them. The friendships are definitely what appeal to me and have kept me blogging! Sorry for the delay in responding. I was on a short break, but I’m back. Thanks for the visit and Happy Blogging!

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  29. Wonderful words, Diana… yes, courtesy and kindness go a long a way in life. Thanks for stopping by. Hope you have a good break. 🙂

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  30. I sometimes ‘like’ a post without feeling that I have anything meaningful to add to the discussion.

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    • Me, too, Sonia. There are some topics that I don’t relate to (the best engine cleaner or lipstick, for example) and sometimes there just isn’t time! Each blogger has to find his or her niche. As long as we’re enjoying ourselves, it’s all good! Happy Blogging!

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  31. I was excited to come across this post of yours because I’ve been thinking about the same topic. My friend and I have launched a survey of older bloggers (meaning anyone past middle age) with a special interest in the personal, rather than the business blog. One of the questions asks how people measure the success of their blog, and “number of comments” is one possible criterion. For me, every comment is exciting but above all it’s the quality of comments that I find heart-warming. The results so far are fascinating — I hope some of your followers find their way there.

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  32. Hannah says:

    Thanks for the reminder of the importance of commenting! Oftentimes, I’m not so sure what to say, although I do want to leave comments.

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  33. Antonia says:

    Have a wonderful time with your parents, Diana! I completely agree with you. It’s not about the numbers, it’s about relationships. I also agree, you should acknowledge someone taking the time to visit and comment on your blog, and reciprocating is such an important part of relationship building. I fall short on time sometimes, but try and visit the bloggers I have relationships with. I always appreciate when you visit my blog and it makes me so happy to hear you have made and liked some of my dishes. It is so rewarding. Have a great Memorial weekend and blogging break!

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  34. Chris Hall says:

    It’s just like life really: be polite, be nice and hope to make some lovely friends!

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    • Yes! It’s that easy, isn’t it? Sort of a no-brainer, except that it took me two years to figure out. Lol. I figured that I couldn’t be the only clueless one out there and hoped this would help. Have a great weekend and thanks so much for the visit and comment!

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  35. Dear Ms. Wallace Peach, thank you ☺️! Building relationships has never been a priority for me, for some (silly) reason, although I consider myself to be a people lover. Just recently I discovered why (I’ll write a blog post about it,… probably). Your post helped me clarify why. I know you are now away to family reunion fun. Looking forward to reading more of your writings and perhaps even … a chat?
    Much love 💕

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    • Thanks for the comment, Andreea. I’m curious to learn about your comment and do hope that you post about it. Blogging fills different needs for each of us, and I’d never suggest that we all need to do it the same way or for the same reasons. This post is for those people who want more comments and don’t know how to go about it. Honestly, I would have stopped blogging years ago, except for the friendships I’ve made around the world. ❤ I am away at a reunion, but stealing some time to reply to comments! Lol. Have a great weekend!

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  36. Absolutely! Great Advice. 🙂

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  37. Ocean Bream says:

    Diana – I read this weeks ago and kept it open on my computer because I meant to ‘comment’ on it! Ah, time ran away with me, But I have snatched some fatigue free moments and am here now! 🙂 I thoroughly enjoyed this post – very informative and touches on something this internet society, so hell bent on comments and likes and statistics, is missing out on! This is why I love blogging so much, it provides a connection with other like-minded people, sharing thoughts and opinions on a vast spectrum of topics. The amount of scintillating conversations I have had with other bloggers – I can’t begin to say! Building relationships is definitely the best part of commenting on blogs. I hope you enjoy your family reunion and have a good blogging break!

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    • Thanks so much for the comment, Lenora. 🙂 I never check my stats and honestly if blogging was only about likes and stats I would have quit a long time ago! It’s the connections all over the world that make it worthwhile. ❤ Happy Blogging, my friend.

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  38. I liked your post. It’s the likes and comments that makes this application enjoyable for me. I think if people follow your suggestions they will enjoy blogging more too.

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  39. PoetSpeak says:

    These tips are invaluable.

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  40. devereaux frazier says:

    Reblogged this on Creative Writing Reblogged.

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  42. Teri Polen says:

    Excellent advice, Diana. I’m way behind on your posts! Both my boys are home for a couple of weeks and everything has fallen to the wayside.

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    • No problem, Teri. I’m all for having a balanced life and however blogging fits into the picture is fine. So enjoy having your boys home! I’m on a break too and just have an hour to do a little catch-up. So I can relate! Have a great weekend! 😀

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