Love Prevails over Fear

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Compiled from Justice Kennedy’s Majority Decision:

The Constitution promises liberty to all within its reach, a liberty that includes certain specific rights that allow persons, within a lawful realm, to define and express their identity.

The centrality of marriage to the human condition makes it unsurprising that the institution has existed for millennia and across civilizations. Since the dawn of history, marriage has transformed strangers into relatives, binding families and societies together. The nature of marriage is that, through its enduring bond, two persons together can find other freedoms, such as expression, intimacy, and spirituality. This is true for all persons, whatever their sexual orientation.

As all parties agree, many same-sex couples provide loving and nurturing homes to their children, whether biological or adopted. And hundreds of thousands of children are presently being raised by such couples. This provides powerful confirmation that gays and lesbians can create loving, supportive families. Without the recognition, stability, and predictability marriage offers, their children suffer the stigma of knowing their families are somehow lesser. The marriage laws at issue here thus harm and humiliate the children of same-sex couples.

No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death.

It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law.

Same-sex couples, too, may aspire to the transcendent purposes of marriage and seek fulfillment in its highest meaning. The Constitution grants them that right.

Yeah, baby!

Love Prevails over Fear.

30 thoughts on “Love Prevails over Fear

  1. Erik says:

    It’s curious to me how people can look at the same event and have such polarized feelings about it.

    I wound up visiting a friend this week and, at his invitation, attended his church. It was an ill-informed, illogical, screaming rant, with strange and sudden crocodile tears of woe that gave way to anger and then laughter, all within seconds. The shootings in Boston and the subsequent funerals were touted as being God’s sure omen that the vote on marriage equality meant America was doomed. I couldn’t quite pick up the connection. Sex that doesn’t result in children was deemed “lust,” and called “an attack on the children of America,” demonically controlled by an ancient deity called Baal. (Really? I guess my 71-year-old mom, still “intimate” with her husband who is 12 years her junior, is also controlled by lust, and attacking children under demonic influence, because no babies are coming as far as I can see!) It was all so fear-based. And what was most scary is that the entire congregation was nodding and agreeing, like they’d all given over their own minds to whatever was said from the front, however strange and disconnected. As long as faces were red, voices were strident and spit was flying, it was accepted as “gospel truth.”

    So interesting that some people feel fear ABOUT this decision, while others feel fear was LIFTED. Some had their faith in America restored, while others are shouting “The End Is Near!” Do people not realize that there really is nothing new under the sun?

    I wish people could realize that America justified slavery as right and godly in the past, and were convinced enough that they were right that they had a Civil War over it. Likewise, the men depicted on some of our currency justified the ill treatment of the Native American people’s as “Manifest Destiny,” when it was really just greed and selfishness. Women’s rights, education, you name it — loud people were sure they were right and fought tooth and nail to keep the status quo. I just wish people could look at history and say, “Oh, I see — we’ve gotten it wrong a bunch in the not-so-distant past; I guess there’s still room to learn and see that our own desires and interests sometimes cloud our rational judgment and cause us to justify what elevates ‘me and mine’ rather than humanity on the whole.”

    Well – that was certainly more controversial than I generally tend to be! I trust people will overlook it this once.

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    • You are welcome to be controversial and there’s little that I can add. Fear is such a powerful, blinding force. In my old counseling days, fear is what sent a person from the prefrontal cortex (rational mind) into the amygdala (reptilian survival instinct) where reason and logic take the back seat. The good news is that once things calm down a bit, the brain returns to a more rational state. Little by little humanity does seem to make small strides forward.

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  2. Love, no matter what people think, is not something for the courts to decide. The fact that the court had to okay it is actually sad. It’s like the rulings giving people the right to vote. That should be a God-given right and shouldn’t have to be ruled for or against. It seems everything has become politicized and legalized and that shouldn’t have happened. I guess some aren’t satisfied unless everything is made to fit into compartments and/or done their way. Good piece, Diana.

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  3. Amen and hallelujah for common sense and justice. Peace next you say. Same rules apply. Love over fear every time. Excellent summary of the ruling.

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    • Thank you! It’s amazing to me how viral fear is. I think it must go back to our caveman days when, on many levels, survival required collective fear. Now it’s more often debilitating and highly dangerous. A world in peace would be lovelier than most can imagine. Thanks for the comment 🙂


  4. betternotbroken says:

    After I divorced, I heard a lot of comments about how people don’t respect marriage, all while being completely disrespectful to those who wanted the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. You raise important points, I wish all those people endeavoring marriage all the best, forever is a very long time and I hope they choose their partners well.

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    • Like all human endeavors, marriage is imperfect, and we don’t always get it right. When we do though… ❤ At least now, every couple who wants to walk that path will get the chance to try. I too wish that all dreams of love will come true.

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  5. Passions says:

    Great post!

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  6. I’m happy for my friends. It’s a great step, a celebration of what’s really important and of essence, loving relationships.

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  7. We can trust that when all is said and done, love does prevail. And now, so does justice. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

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  8. Restores my faith in the US 🙂

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  9. Dawn D says:

    Yes, I too am thrilled! This is a great day for many of my friends 🙂

    Liked by 3 people

  10. cindy knoke says:

    Such a wonderful perspective on the first good news we’ve had in the usa for a long time! Thank you~

    Liked by 3 people

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